I don't know what's going on with my husband
We have a toddler and a little baby. Our toddler has additional needs and had a meltdown today. After 10 minutes of the meltdown, my husband stood up and shouted "enough" at them, got his shoes on, walked out and slammed the door. Both children were crying at the top of their lungs. I eventually managed to settle the youngest while comforting the eldest. He sent me a blunt text message, and after 15 minutes, he came back. He said to me "if I wasn't so cold outside, I wouldn't have come back yet. I'd have been hours". He has made passive "jokes" about "how he wishes he'd worn a Jonny", how he misses the peace and quiet, sending our eldest off to his Nans, etc. I'm absolutely gobsmacked. He's trying to pick fights. Except from telling him despite being in self-destruct to stop trying to destroy everything else around him, I'm not entertaining them. I've said that I think he needs professional help. He won't acknowledge it. I'm at a loss for words right now.