why is it SO hard for people to understand that not everyone has the ability to leave a bad relationship? especially if you are financially dependent on someone/chronically ill/disabled.
I am trying my best every day to achieve financial independence but its so so hard when you are trapped in a bad dynamic.
this is the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
I don't know what to do. I think my issue is beyond reddit's pay grade. I have complex ptsd and bpd. obviously an attachment based therapist would be ideal but I don't have the funds to do so rn. I love my partner so much but he keeps hurting me even though he means well. my condition is deteriorating. he doesn't see the problem bc its not his fault. its my trauma pattern. but by this stage he is contributing to the pattern and I’m unable to stop doing it on my own (it's unconscious and impulsive) I’ve asked for his support in breaking this pattern and he doesn't feel any sense of responsibility or obligation.
I’m so afraid of ending up in a place where i have less and less agency over this pattern bc it puts my life at risk. and I know its just a bad pattern/bad conditioning which needs a different input but he wont acknowledge or recognise that to help me change it.
like yea self agency and autonomy but what am I meant to do if its literally an UNCONSCIOUS thing I have no control over and it is fully in his power to help me break the cycle.
its like the core trauma pattern existed on its own long before him but its become a much more complex trauma now and I only realised recently that it began as a distinct pattern in the beginning of the relationship while he was seeing another woman. there were times where he was not completely upfront about it which led to some extremely deep fearful reinforcement of my attachment wounds.
its not that its his fault, this is my trauma and attachment pattern at its core but its not only that now, its become something else too which he contributes to, a new thing entirely which is perpetuated by his dismissal and reinforcement which makes any possibility of secure attachment impossible for me.
I guess at this point its just a Retraumatisation Loop.
I don't want to feel like im victimising myself but I don't see any way out of it on my own.
I don't know what to do. I think my issue is beyond reddit's pay grade. I have complex ptsd and bpd. obviously an attachment/ifs therapist would be ideal but I don't have the funds to do so rn. I love my partner so much but he keeps hurting me even though he means well. my condition is deteriorating. he doesn't see the problem bc its not his fault. its my trauma pattern. but by this stage he is contributing to the pattern and I’m unable to stop doing it on my own (it's unconscious and impulsive) I’ve asked for his support in breaking this pattern and he doesn't feel any sense of responsibility or obligation.
I think people really shouldn't be doing bdsm without psychological training and understanding of attachment dynamics as its dangerous and people's lives are at risk.
I’m so afraid of ending up in a place where i have less and less agency over this pattern bc it puts my life at risk. and I know its just a bad pattern/bad conditioning which needs a different input but he wont acknowledge or recognise that to help me change it.
like yea self agency and autonomy but what am I meant to do if its literally an UNCONSCIOUS thing I have no control over and it is fully in his power to help me break the cycle.
its like the core trauma pattern existed on its own long before him but its become a much more complex trauma now and I only realised recently that it began as a distinct pattern in the beginning of the relationship while he was seeing another woman. there were times where he was not completely upfront about it which led to some extremely deep fearful reinforcement of my attachment wounds.
its not that its his fault, this is my trauma and attachment pattern at its core but its not only that now, its become something else too which he contributes to, a new thing entirely which is perpetuated by his dismissal and reinforcement which makes any possibility of secure attachment impossible for me.
I guess at this point its just a Retraumatisation Loop.
I don't want to feel like im victimising myself but I don't see any way out of it on my own.
Just getting tired of all the manufactured outrage when there is actually a very simple solution to it all.
CIS women retain their identity and as a social and legal category remain unchanged and transwomen gain explicit legal protection and the right to self determination as a distinct category.
TERFs have no grounds to dispute on as their protected identity of "womanhood" is entirely their own.
Trans women achieve their right to self determination. Everyone is fully agentic.
If anyone (on both sides) objects then they immediately expose themselves as having dishonest motives or fascist motives as in this scenario everyone's agency and right to self determinacy is preserved and intact.
No one is forced into spaces they don't want. TERFs get to keep the sanctity of their identity and trans women don't have to fight for inclusion in hostile spaces where they wouldn't want to be anyway.
Everybody wins.
would you be able to share some of your work and what your experience has been? just trying to get a feel for what might be successful in the market and whether its worth pursuing. I don't have any voice acting experience but get alot of compliments on my voice.
how much budget allocation should one expect for basic logo/label design (not packaging design)? I have a strong sense of the brand identity but not quite visually yet. what would you say the minimum investment is to get a viable outcome?