My [24M] Boyfriend [25M] doesn't ask me any questions or follow up questions so I feel like I am always carrying the conversation.
My boyfriend and I have been together 8 months (not long, I know) and we have had quite the time. Around a month ago, we separated for 4 days because whenever we would communicate with each other, there would be fights. Taking 4 days apart even though it’s only 4 days, really helped us collect our thoughts and now we can communicate without fighting.
One major problem I have had is that I haven’t felt like I’m wanted in the relationship. It’s always me feeling like I’m planning, I’m carrying the conversation, I’m the one reaching out to do things. For example, we are a bit long distance so with our texts, the only question he will ask me is, how was your day? No follow ups, no questions about my interest, no questions about anything going on in my life. Maybe I have high standards but I don’t think it’s hard to ask about something specific to show that you are listening. I have so many things going on, big things! I am going to portugal on May 2nd, I am moving into a new apartment on May 1st, I have a CPA exam next Tuesday, My mom is going to jail in a month, I have friends that I chat with every day that live out of state, I go to the gym and run. We have and conversations about this stuff because I bring it up. I have asked him to ask more probing and intentional questions and he has and now he isn’t. I don’t know if this is a deal breaker but I hope it isn’t I really like him! Do you think I’m asking for too much? How do you think I can help improve this because maybe I’m not communicating it in an understandable way?