u/chillaxtion

I’m reposting this from another sub, does this read as dementia? We’re having a horrible time navigating the medical system in part because my mom made and canceled so many medical appointments, often at the last second. Repost starts below:

My mom is 97. She’s in a very expensive assisted living facility now was at home until recently. Nearly every day I get a voicemail saying ‘come now, I’m dying, please. I’m sorry’.

Often this in all caps or filled with typos. It’s the same nearly every day. When she was home she’d call 911 and wind up in the ER and have long nights there with the addicts and stuff. Sometimes she’d call neighbors who’d be freaked out.

The has these shaking seizures and has bruises from hitting things. Doctors say it’s just anxiety. She has better bloodwork than anyone. She could live for years like this.

She’s kinda being kicked out of assisted living now and none of us know what to do. Nobody wants a nursing home. Memory care is hundreds of thousands a year but we’ll do it if need be I guess. Her quality of life is an endless torment. I’ve become somewhat callous to it out of necessity.

Nobody tells you about this. I don’t have a script for it. It’s wild.

My mom is 97. Starting just under a year ago she started having shaking fits, mild at first but severe now. She now shakes a lot and can’t walk, strikes things and gets bruises.

She’s often profoundly confused and scared around these events. Often doesn’t remember the individually or that she has them at all.

Does this read as epilepsy?

My mom is 97. She’s in a very expensive assisted living facility now was at home until recently. Nearly every day I get a voicemail saying ‘come now, I’m dying, please. I’m sorry’.

Often this in all caps or filled with typos. It’s the same nearly every day. When she was home she’d call 911 and wind up in the ER and have long nights there with the addicts and stuff. Sometimes she’d call neighbors who’d be freaked out.

The has these shaking seizures and has bruises from hitting things. Doctors say it’s just anxiety. She has better bloodwork than anyone. She could live for years like this.

She’s kinda being kicked out of assisted living now and none of us know what to do. Nobody wants a nursing home. Memory care is hundreds of thousands a year but we’ll do it if need be I guess. Her quality of life is an endless torment. I’ve become somewhat callous to it out of necessity.

Nobody tells you about this. I don’t have a script for it. It’s wild.

A few years ago we took down a derelict warehouse and cleaned up the site from contamination. We're in the design phase for the new house now. It's a passive solar design with a slab heated by rooftop solar hot water. The basement portion will also have a skylight (part of it sticks out beyond the house). We will also have a masonry heater. It's a kind of massive stove that stores the heat from hot efficient fires and releases it slowly throughout the day or night. It will literally weigh tons. There a carport (really a patio cover but we can park there) that should generate enough power for back up heat, cooling, and any appliances.

We're dedicating quite a lot of the site to a boccie court but it also functions as a dry well to prevent flooding in the area to reduce storm water runoff. The site abuts a town park so we don't really need lawn. The rest is going to be paths and wildflowers.

We already have site plan approval and have moved through the initial design phase into construction drawings.

I'll be 60 years old in December. I am watching my mom now at 97 wind down and die as my dad did 11 years ago. So, I am aware of my mortality. I was thinking that this house is for us for a little while but mostly it's a thing that will be left behind for others.

I know that we have a lot. I know that things are pretty bad. Hopefully this project going ahead feels hopeful to people.

I may have posted this here before but these things can take years and have starts and stops. This time we're almost there.I had a long grueling morning on the phone with planning and the builder. It's almost there.

We have an 07 pilot without the tow package. I want to bring back about 3000lbs of cherry flooring. This would be about 50 miles over flat interstate point to point tow. We have a hitch we use for bicycles but I haven't towed anything like this. Is it acceptable? Once were up to speed it's just flat out. Nothing. Barely any steering.

If you see a swarm of bees please notify me. It's unlikely they'd survive in the wild. I am a 20 year beekeeper and can take them and make sure they'e safe and dot damage anyone's property.

We saw the Sondheim musical last night, which ran 3 hours, and had an orchestra in the pit. I’ve never seen the pit open before.

At first u thought the singing was lip synched because the voices were so great. The musical itself was mind boggling genius.

I am absolutely at a loss for how it could have been better. Smith theater is so often great but this was special. Probably sold out but get wait listed if you can.