Controlling housemate told me not to sleep with him… so I did (loudly)
Edit: *him - my then FWB
Few years ago In second year of uni, I lived with a girl who slowly became weirdly controlling (we were 21-22)
At first it was constant check-ins—where are you, who are you with, when are you back. Then it turned into arguments if I didn’t follow plans exactly. If I changed plans while I was out, I’d get paragraphs calling me inconsiderate or a bad friend, with ALL the names under the sun (c*nt was her favourite)
But the double standards were insane.
She could bring people back whenever she wanted—once a group stayed up doing coke until 6am before my 9am start.
I wasn’t even allowed to have friends in my own room because it made her “anxious.” I literally had to sneak people in and out of my own house.
She’d also create “emergencies” anytime I went out without her so I’d have to come get her. If I didn’t, it would turn into a massive argument.
At one point, she spammed me with calls while I was at a pub quiz because the fire alarm battery was beeping and she was “too anxious” to leave her room. She even got someone from the bar to come find me.
So I left my friends and went home.
Couldn’t fix it (it needed new batteries).
I said, “there was no point me coming back,” and she just goes, “I know.”
That was when I mentally checked out.
What made it even weirder was that when she first met the guy I was seeing (now my boyfriend), she actually liked him. Met him in a club queue, said he seemed like a great guy.
The second she realised I was sleeping with him, though? Suddenly she hated him???
The final straw was when she told me that if I slept with him again, she would stop speaking to me.
So I did.
And I made sure it was the loudest, most obnoxious, absolutely unmistakable, orgasmic night possible with her in the room next door.
She stopped speaking to me after that. We communicated through notes until I moved out about 4 weeks later!
Best part?
It was the best the house had ever been