LDR bf of 7 months (friend of 3 yrs) went completely ghost after a stressful period. Is there hope?
Hello, I'm F22. Today is officially the 1month mark since my ldr bf(22) went completely dark. He blocked me on every single platform, uninstalled the apps we used to communicate, and even deleted his discord account. Since we are long-distance, this "digital erasure" feels like he’s completely wiped me out of existence.
Before this, he told our mutual friends he would "never let me go" because this was his first truly healthy relationship. We were friends for 3 years before dating, so there was a lot of history and trust there.
I hit a massive wall of stress during my ojt. I didn't handle the pressure well and i relapsed into some old, toxic coping mechanisms. I pushed him away, said "I hate you," and even made some "kms" comments. It wasn't a manipulation tactic; i was just spiraling and didn't know how to ask for help.
He broke up with me, and two days later, i reached out to him. I begged him for us to talk properly and settle things. Instead of responding, i found out he started creating entirely new accounts just to avoid me. I tried messaging him on multiple apps we used to use, but he just kept running. Finally, one week ago, he officially blocked my main account and deleted/uninstalled the apps he only had because of me. He didn't even give me a chance to talk with him... Since we are ldr, these apps were our only connection. By deleting them and blocking me everywhere, it feels like he’s trying to erase my existence.
I’ve spent this month taking full accountability. I’ve learned how to manage my stress and I’m working on my emotional regulation so i never "overflow" like that again..
Is it common for an avoidant partner in and ldr to go this far just to escape? Does creating new accounts and blocking everything mean it’s over forever, or is he just in a deep shame/guilt spiral? Should i keep hoping he’ll come back once he cools down, or should i accept that I’ve been permanently "deleted"?