u/bulbagrows

I’m exactly a week post-op today and STILL having consistent bleeding. I see all these posts in both this sub and the other hysto sub with people saying they didn’t bleed once or only a couple days and it can feel extremely frustrating when that isn’t your experience, making you feel like something is going wrong. I have been so stressed out about it.

I’ve already contacted my doctor and they don’t seem concerned (not filling a pad an hour, no pain, etc), I’m honestly probably too active which is also odd because all I do is laps around the house for 10 or so minutes whenever I get up to use the restroom. I’m honestly just upset by all this blood and keep worrying about it not knowing what’s going on or why my experience seems so different.

P.S I have NO idea how people stay on literal bed rest this long. My back is absolutely killing me no matter where I lay down or sit. It’s awful

Apologies if this isn’t the place to ask. I tried asking on legal advice, but didn’t get any traction! I was hoping someone here might know.

My partner and I have been engaged for 3 years, but we postponed a lot because we want to share last names and I want to get my first name changed.

Back in 2022, I was able to change my gender marker on my DL via Form 5532, so I am sort of ‘grandfathered in’. From my understanding, it now requires a court order, but somewhere a ways back, I saw that the state of Missouri was considering removing that option and not letting citizens change the marker at all.

I suppose my question is if that is still true, and if the court order route is still possible and would be worth pursuing unless especially if something is to change in the near future (or that I would be able to change it ‘quick enough’.)

Hopefully that makes sense, and I would love some clarity into what my options and possibilities are. I can provide more details/answer questions if needed. Thank you all!

Update: y’all were right! While the anxiety is real and very valid, thats just what it is, anxiety. All these concerns and worries and fears melted away once all was said and done. I’m a little under 24 hours past writing this. Haven’t been in too much pain at all, just dealing with awful constipation and gas pain. Bleeding hasn’t been bad either and I’m psychologically handling it better than I expected. It helps a ton that the care team I had was wonderful. I know I have a long way to go, but so far, so good! No regrets.

Hey everyone! Typical post here…just general pre-op woes and anxiety. I was so sure and excited for this a month ago (and longer before) when I was getting this scheduled, but now that it’s literally two days away, I am filled with dread. I know recovery is supposed to be fine and realistically everything will be alright, but I’m guilty of doomscrolling and just absolutely wallowing in the fear. What if something goes wrong while I’m under? What if I can never have enjoyable sex again? What if this causes life long issues? Do I really need this? What if I actually DO want kids down the line? (I don’t, thats the main point of the surgery, my brain just likes to fuck with me). Like I really DO NOT want children and even if I did, I don’t want to birth them. I guess the finality of it all is just hitting me? I definitely both thought about it a lot years pre-surgery, and also never thought about it (in the sense of like ‘not giving it a second thought’). My brain is just swirling. How am I going to handle post-op bleeding? The dysphoria of it all?

Everyone keeps asking me if I’m excited, but really, I am just so mentally checked out and stressed. I hope this gets better post op.