u/bryanlooksmaxxed1449

So a celebrity I follow posted this statement recently that we have this habit of telling women and girls "get home safe" rather than telling men and boys "don't rape or kill anyone tonight." And I was wondering if you had thoughts on how we usually just balance women having to not dress a certain way or make certain choices for their practical and immediate safety with actual complicity and accepting the world the way it is?

I am also curious about the specific framing as a quote or slogan, as women here are portrayed as mens prey and men as women's predators. I was wondering if it portrays men as these inherently dangerous individuals rather than groups who are socialized into violence or am I literally missing the point? Her statement absolutely addresses socialization, as it mentions what boys are told, but I also see rape culture as this broader societal issue not just an issue of what men and boys are like

Anyway, perhaps I am speaking from a position of ignorance and privilege and literally missing the point but I would love to know your thoughts as feminists

So I have 3 feminist questions:

1 What makes something entitlement

So usually when I discuss desiring a relationship and being unattractive some people may respond dismissively saying "this isn't important you can live without a relationship" or "no one is entitled to sex." And while I agree with that stand alone statement, I sometimes feel like it gets repeated whenever a man grieves over rejection. So I was wondering what exactly turns arbitrary and normal grieving from rejection into male entitlement? In the past I would occasionally get these kinds of responses from feminists, however I feel like sometimes, not always, the issue people have is the grieving itself.

2 The context of male privilege

I have noticed that when women desire a child and vent about how it's unfair and grieve over it, I rarely hear people respond with "you can survive without a child get friends instead it's fine," or "no one is entitled to children." And while I agree a woman desiring a child wouldn't merit that kind of response, I am wondering are men who grieve considered entitled specifically because of their privileged position in society where the act of grieving over romantic rejection is in itself problematic, or is it how they communicate and the context that often makes it entitled?

3 Intersectionality

And lastly I would also like to know if the same logic would apply to a Black person, say who feels significantly more socially rejected by white people or people in specific professional or social settings due to racism, be it the job market, meetups, dating or specific neighborhoods? Would grieving over that as it stems from racism and oppression also be viewed as a form of entitlement? And if not what would make it a form of entitlement?

Those are all of my questions. I would be interested in having a feminist perspective on these to better understand the dynamic of how entitlement works. Thank you