Close friend is expecting and I am even more confused
One thing that’s been messing with my head lately is that one of my friends is pregnant and due this summer. And honestly… in my opinion, they are not financially ready at all. They live in a very high cost of living city, rent, have basically no savings, rely on their parents sending money every month, and only one income (around 80k). My friend doesn’t work.
Seeing this situation weirdly gives me two completely opposite feelings at the same time.
On one hand, I think: “Well damn, if THEY can decide to have a kid, then maybe I’m overthinking everything and I could do it too.”
But on the other hand, I get irrationally irritated listening to them constantly complain about how expensive everything is going to be, formula, diapers, childcare, all of it. The baby isn’t even here yet and they already sound financially stressed. Part of me keeps thinking… was this not something you considered before getting pregnant?
And then I feel guilty for even thinking that, because obviously nobody can fully “prepare” for kids and lots of people make it work without being wealthy.
I don’t even know what my point is. I think seeing people make huge life decisions with way less caution than I would is making me question whether I’m responsibly thoughtful… or just overly anxious and avoidant.