I don’t think my mother understands how much her jokes affect me.
so I have recently requested that my mother call me he/ him, and she‘s kind of trying. she doesn’t seem to think about it, and still calls me she or her. it isn’t that big a deal, since it’s still in early stages. what really made me upset today was that around an hour ago, we went to a restaurant and the waitress called me ”him.” I sort of smiled but I was genuinely happy. but she literally sapped the happiness from me when she laughed and said; “oh she called you him!” I very visibly frowned, and she sort of looked embarrassed or like, awkward, but didn’t apologize or really do anything to make it clear she didn’t mean to hurt my feelings. she’s said before that my stepbrother is “the son she never had” when I’m right in front of her. I even told her that I was right there, but she just said; “oh don’t feel bad” and I just left.
she also said today that she thinks being trans is a mental illness, but whatever. she isn’t hateful, I think she just…doesn’t really know about it and doesn’t care to do her research.
anyways, I just don’t think she understands how much she hurts my feelings. so, I kinda need advice?