u/brees_place

Hey everyone, looking for some perspective from people who might have been in a similar situation. (posting across a few communities for more povs)

I'm a freshman in college, almost 20, Black woman. I've been largely self sufficient I'm on the dean's list, secured an RA position out of 200+ applicants, have an internship, run a small business, and have worked at the same company since I was 15.

A few weeks ago I sent my mom a heartfelt message about feeling depressed, unwanted, and alone. Instead of support, my mom got upset, told my dad, and he called and yelled at me for an hour and gave me an ultimatum follow his rules or leave. The "rules" I broke were going to a nearby college party once, spending time with my boyfriend, and researching summer housing options without telling them first.

Now it's finals week, move out is in 4 days, and they still won't give me a straight answer about whether I can come home. My mom keeps saying "you have security" but won't just say yes.

Here's the thing I actually have a solid plan to stay on campus. Summer RA housing covered, internship, multiple job opportunities stacking up, fall RA already secured. I like who I'm becoming here.

But I feel guilt, grief, and anxiety about choosing myself over going home.

Has anyone navigated choosing independence over a toxic home dynamic? How did you handle the guilt? Did it get better?

Hey everyone, looking for some perspective from people who might have been in a similar situation.

I'm a freshman in college, almost 20. I've been largely self sufficient I'm on the dean's list, secured an RA position out of 200+ applicants, have an internship, run a small business, and have worked at the same company since I was 15.

A few weeks ago I sent my mom a heartfelt message about feeling depressed, unwanted, and alone. Instead of support, my mom got upset, told my dad, and he called and yelled at me for an hour and gave me an ultimatum follow his rules or leave. The "rules" I broke were going to a nearby college party once, spending time with my boyfriend, and researching summer housing options without telling them first.

Now it's finals week, move out is in 4 days, and they still won't give me a straight answer about whether I can come home. My mom keeps saying "you have security" but won't just say yes.

Here's the thing I actually have a solid plan to stay on campus. Summer RA housing covered, internship, multiple job opportunities stacking up, fall RA already secured. I like who I'm becoming here.

But I feel guilt, grief, and anxiety about choosing myself over going home.

Has anyone navigated choosing independence over a toxic home dynamic? How did you handle the guilt? Did it get better?

Edit: they also threatened my fafsa such as giving their info for it all while I have finals this week. Also like cutting me off so

I paid 10/11k of my tuition this year and largely pay for all my own stuff in 2 semesters I asked them for $30 and they paid a portion of one bill yet sent me an instagram post about children who are ungrateful and use their parents as bank accounts. I pay them to take me to work and they owe me over 2k

Hi everyone.

I'm considering transferring to a different location just for 2 months as I will be away and needing to work. Is there any chance I will be allowed to transfer temporarily to a convenient location while remaining at my main base?