Update
I honestly don't know where to start. I am sorry for not posting anything in past several months. A lot happened. I mean, shit a lot.
I started divorce and custody. It was hard and expensive. My kids didn't go to see him for Christmas or Easter. I asked them and they said no because, and I quote: "granny talks not nice things". I asked them if they are sure and they both said yes. I told them that dad would be very upset. They told me that they will go only if granny isn't there.
I called him and told him that kids want to see him under one rule. His mother will not be present. I don't want my kids uncomfortable. They both started therapy and I got report because it is concerning and I am in some session when they want me to be.
Fr Christmas it was arranged for me and kids to get there and be in our old home in Chicago. Dinner started fine, for my surprise. He got them gifts. Toys and some stuff they wanted. He even got me a pajama set I was eyeing before everything started. Kids prepared presents for him as well. I let my guard down and the moment I did his mother jumped out of the storage room with presents for kids. They both pressed against my legs and started crying. I was pissed so much that I got them ready in under 5 minutes and out of the door. I had to turn off my phone because of non stop called I was getting from him. (His mother got blocked long time ago). We were at the airport in and I got three tickets for Tampa Florida.
My cousin picked us up and drove to the Orlando. We got back to my home country a week later.
Usually we would celebrate Orthodox Christmas with my aut but this time we did it at my parents house. My soj found a coin in breat my mom made. They were so happy. They go many sweets *day before Christmas. That night we went to church with my brother and his family where they got to ride a horse from one of my old friends. They slept like rocks that night. Next day there were so many presents under the tree and Santa Clause (aka my brother's God father)
(*day before Christmas kids go around village and knock on doors saying: give us candy, fruit, vine! Christmas is at the gate. No one gave them vine. This is tradition that everyone does in smaller places.)
For catholic Easter we went to my grandma. They got money there😂. I didn't 🙃 (grandma always used to gave me, my brother and my causing some cash. Like 20$. Since my brother and I are bringing kids to Easter and Christmas kids are getting money. And like 40$ each. What is a lot). Second day of Easter we went to resort where we were for three days. I even bruised my hip from falling in the pool.
That Sunday we celebrate Orthodox Easter (last week). My parents hid all presents around the yard for all grandkids.
After thill funny part let's move to boring legal stuff.
I have primary custody
Kids are involved in school here
Ex is getting one month per summer while kids are on summer break (summer break:from mid June till start of September)
I have restraining order against his mother and rest of his family 😁🥳.
I started working one town over (it's 30 minutes away).
I am in contact with his mother neighbor. Old Miss Donna. She told me that his mother is planning something. She isn't sure what, but told me to look into restraining order that will keep her away even in my home town. Ex MIL is bombarding miss Donna with "I didn't do anything" story. She told her that I "did not let my husband and her see my kids because I am mad for not getting alimony"
First, I did not get alimony. I did want it. I don't get child support. Why? Because it's getting divided 50-50 into two accounts that court monitors. Those are for kids. I asked for that. For me it's better to keep that money for there future. I earn well enough to afford nice house in very good neiborhood in town I work in. I do have mortgage, but it's maybe 100-150$ a month. I am also renting out my old apartment for 300$ a month + utilities. So practically rent is covering mortgage
Am I the bag guy here?