u/booooooop_u

I spend all day everyday with him and he prefers dad. Dad does bedtime but I do dinner and bath. Dad is so much more animated and silly and fun. I definitely play with him and sing to him but I can’t give him undivided attention like dad does bc I have to take care of the house, myself, our pets. It makes me feel terrible sometimes. :(

Tonight he was screaming for dada and I had to give him a bath and try to feed him while my husband cleaned the pool. He settles as soon as dad came back. Ugh!!!

My MIL is very self centered and needs a lot of attention. I have had two nightmare recently where I am on vacation with my in laws and I feel a sense of being trapped.

I just know they are waiting to be invited to live with us since we have a big property and a guest house. Neither my husband or I want that but they are aging.

Anyway my MIL and FIL drive me insane and they want to be babied by us. When they come to visit everyone looks to me to cook. Which I didn’t mind before I had a child but now I’m like it would be nice for my retired MIL to do some cooking or laundry and contribute when she is staying with us. Keep in mind this woman had a live in nanny and didn’t work.

She loves to point out I’m so lucky to have family support close by (my family) and she didn’t have that. She did, and I’ll repeat, have a live in nanny.

Anyway I’ve been making an effort to respond to her messages and even called her to just say hi. Since then she has called and texted me every single day. She wants to have a constantly dialogue with me. I told my husband to FaceTime her with our baby and he of course forgot to. So I did it since she’s been asking. Immediately after we got off the phone she sent a follow up text wanting to keep the conversation going. I just didn’t reply.

I actually take care of my child, clean, and cook most meals. I’m freaking busy lady! And I have my own huge family to keep in touch with.