u/boiledonemybabygirl

I am NOT going to say the sub's name of course, but I'm really upset about this. If this is too close to breaking the rule of not mentioning other subs I'll take this post down though. There was a sub I really loved that I felt like I could really be myself in, at least regarding one specific "part" of myself, that I've sadly had to leave today. Not going to go into specifics, but basically some mods brought up gender-related discourse out of seemingly nowhere (the sub wasn't related to gender AT ALL) saying that misandry as a whole doesn't exist and that men can't be oppressed. Mods then proceeded to double down and even banned a bunch of users, many of whom were trans men specifically because they pointed out that people can still experience bigotry for identifying/being perceived as men even if white cis able bodied men aren't *systemically* oppressed for being men. The entire sub just doesn't feel welcoming anymore which I'm really upset about and genuinely cried because of how upset the whole thing made me. I kept seeing comments and posts from there saying that they're happy that all the crybaby men are leaving or calling us MRAs and attention seekers and stuff. I know it wasn't everyone in the sub and people are still trying to talk about the issue even after mods have made it so new posts that mention the discourse in support of men (not the ones being low/high key sexist towards men though : /) are getting deleted, but it just hurts to not feel welcomed in so-called inclusive spaces. Idk, I'm just sad. Sorry if this post is worded badly, writing coherent sentences can be very difficult for me sometimes.