How can | [23M] learn to be less rigid/ awkward/nervous with the girl [24F] im seeing?
This is a really weird situation for me. I'm not the most confident or charismatic guy, but I've been in a couple relationships and had some short term things but with this girl I've been seeing the past 4 months I can't seem to get comfortable.
To give some context, I got out of a four year relationship about eight months ago. This girl I'm seeing now I actually knew from some time ago. We used to be super close in grade school and early high school but around grade 10 we slowly drifted apart, and i hadn't spoken to her since then.
We reconnected and hit it off and we've been seeing each other pretty consistently since then. After a couple months I asked her to be my girlfriend and she told me that she wasn't ready, but wanted to work towards that and just take it slow. Honestly, that was probably a good decision because as I mentioned, l still can't seem to be fully comfortable around her.
I don't know what it is. I think it stems from the fact that I'm really happy with her. Maybe I think I'm gonna mess it up and so l analyze everything I do and get in my head when I'm with her instead of just being present in the moment and enjoy enjoying it. I'm just so scared and worried that I fucked it all up, I saw her tonight and she kind of called me out for it. I told her she still makes me a little nervous and she said I looked closed off and brought me closer to her, and I hugged her and kissed her. But I just felt so awkward.
I really want to fix this because I don't wanna lose her and make her feel like I'm a nervous wreck or I'm not completely confident myself. And maybe I'm not 100%, but I know there's something going on. That's making me feel this way.