Is this unfair to my partner?
Me and my partner have been together for a couple of years and they are honestly a great partner. They aren’t able to transition at the moment but plan to sometime within the next few years (ftm). I love them but there are some things traits I really wish they had that they don’t, like I wish they would take the lead and be more assertive since in every aspect of my life I have to do that and it would be nice to not always have to in my relationship.
Now here’s my question: i am hoping that once they get out of their toxic household and are able to freely transition, they gain some of these more confident traits. Is this an unfair/idealistic wish? It makes sense in my head, I’ve heard that people often change a lot when they transition. I still love them, I just want to make sure this isn’t a bad mindset to have. They have to deal with a lot of stress at home so I don’t know what they are truly like when they don’t have to deal with that yk? One would think that being free of that burden would change a person a bit.