u/blankabitch

Looking for advice and experience from other parents when it comes to helping older teens with their mental health

My oldest (18) has always been a good very sweet quiet kid but lately he has been careening into major depression. It's his last year of highschool and he has no motivation or hope for the future..can't get up on time, do his homework, keep his space clean, keep a job, etc. he was just diagnosed with major depressive disorder 2 months ago. Says he feels he has no future and doesn't care. He has a long term girlfriend who is also the same and I know better than to talk crap about his relationship but it's co-dependent and unhealthy.

I'm a low-income single mom, just got us out of a domestic violence situation. His younger brother (9) has ADHD and trauma from his father too so I guess that's taken up a lot of my time and I know I need to help my oldest too. I'm just feeling exhausted and helpless and it's hard because now that he's 18 there's a limit to the appointments I can make for him/help I can get him due to him being considered an adult.