Resentful feeling towards parents (children’s grandparents)
Has anyone else felt this way since having kids?
My parents were stoked to become grandparents. Told me all the things they wanted to do.. then nothing came of that. They rarely see our kids even though they are retired. They have decided to become lazy in retirement. They drink much more than they ever did and spend the rest of the time traveling, but tell me they are too old and tired to come up to visit. We live about 1.5-2 hours away and its hard for us to go visit; there is no place to stay and after an hour or so the kids are wild (two toddlers in an unfamiliar place) and they are unhelpful. My dad is also typical boomer and some of his comments/actions go very against how I am raising my children.
Similar story with my in laws who are living their best retirement life (more social than I’ve ever been) and openly have little interest in the grandkids.
Everyone else I know has hands on grandparents. I’m becoming so resentful and I don’t want it to hurt my relationship with my parents but also how they said they would be and how they are, are two different stories.