u/asymptotallyy

Hi BWT! First-time poster, long-time lurker here. It's been heartwarming to see so many posts here seeking connection/friendship and thought I'd shoot my shot! I've lived in San Francisco for over 15 years and have seen a lot of friendships come and go as people move away, start a family, etc. I currently have a lot more "activity" type friends and am seeking a few closer/lasting friendships. A few caveats first:

• I love all the meetup & discord/whatsapp etc groups that have formed from some of those posts! But I'm specifically seeking closer 1:1 friendships that are a bit more tailored to who I am/ what I'm looking for in a friend, hence this post! I'm not looking for advice on how to meet people though of course if there's some super niche group you think I'd be a great fit for, feel free to mention it! (Already aware of the DINK/childfree meetup groups :))
• I don't have a long list of friendship criteria and try to stay open-minded (see more about me below though) but I already have so many friends with children of varying ages, and at this point in my life I'm not seeking to add more friends with kids or that plan to have kids. I'm really looking to prioritize friendships with those who are happily childfree and plan to stay that way

So who am I?

• Early 40s, live with my SO and my rescue dog in the NOPA area.
• Some of my values/things that comprise my identity: Care a lot about animal welfare, though I'm imperfect and don't get it right in every way (e.g. am pescatarian and not a vegan). It was really important to me to adopt my dog from a shelter. I'm politically left/progressive and have worked on progressive campaigns. I'm not religious but I enjoy learning about what beliefs people have and what shapes their worldviews, whether that's their religion or something else. I'm someone who will talk about politics/religion/etc. when I first meet someone and don't think of it as taboo. I obviously don't expect everyone to share my views but for friendships it's nice to thoughtfully engage on important topics and be able to discuss why we disagree - I think this is also how people grow/learn from one another.
• I'm definitely not crazy into partying etc these days, but I am very much a night owl in terms of my chronotype and am never going to want to hang out in the morning. (Feel the need to put this out there bc most women I meet in my age group lately are super early birds 😅) I'm down for afternoon walks or hikes or activities, happy hours, and of course later night adventures for those who also stay up late.
• Some of my hobbies include indoor climbing, gardening, long walks, watching Warriors games (RIP this season), playing music and going to the occasional live show -- but for friendships I'm honestly mostly seeking getting to know each other and great conversation (I love just "hanging out" and talking endlessly).
• I'm currently taking an indefinite career break, which means I have more free time than usual and am flexible during the day!

I'll leave it there because this is already super long, but would genuinely love to connect if any of this resonates with you and you'd like to meet up some time! Feel free to DM me or comment and I'd love to connect <3 Also shoutout to all the vulnerable women who've posted before me - I wouldn't have had the courage to post otherwise!