SMALL UPDATE:
I did send a message to my step-dad asking for clarification and let him know that I have no issue removing him and my mother from the guest list.
My sister is meeting with my mother to discuss their fight and pushing my step-dad to at least attend the wedding.
My step-dad hasn't opened or responded to my message. Will update again if anyone cares.
ORIGINAL POST:
Hello I'm back with more parent drama.
So my mom and my sister have been fighting for just over a month now over some private issues with my niece. I'm not going to delve into that as it's not my information to share. This is relevant though because my mom hasn't been talking to me over it (for about a month) due to a message I sent her regarding this fight, basically just telling her she needs to apologize to my sister.
Anyway, I sent her a message asking her when she plans on shopping for a MOB dress as the shipping times at this point are getting rather close to my wedding date. I told her she needs to communicate with me regardless of this fight as both her and my step-dad are in the wedding. Me and my mother will be doing a mother daughter dance, and my step-dad is supposed to walk me down the aisle.
She did finally respond to me after that message and it turns out, because of the message I sent my mother telling her she needs to apologize to my sister, my step-dad is refusing to go to my wedding. He hasn't even had the gall to tell me this information himself.
My step-dad had a good part in raising me as my blood father is a complete piece of shit. I've been no contact with my blood father for several years now and he is not invited to the wedding.
I am completely broken over this. I have looked up to my step-dad my entire life for putting up with me at my worst, as I was undiagnosed with Bipolar until pretty recently. Turns out he's said some awful things to my sister in the past, however. Mainly that nobody would love her as a single mother as she had a child in her mid teens. She has been married for over 5 years at this point and he was completely unsupportive of their relationship the entire time. I just found this out yesterday.
I don't know where to go from here. I now have nobody to walk me down the aisle, have completely lost respect for my step-dad, and am afraid I will be crying for half my wedding.
At this point, I really don't think I want him or my mother at the wedding at all even if he changes his mind because it was taken away from me so easily.