Found out my partner has been talking shit about me on reddit and hates my guts. Do I confront him?
I’m not that familiar with reddit but he was always on it. He sent me a screenshot of something from this page. The username in the comments was the exact same username he uses for instagram. I looked up it up and found posts, mostly comments about our relationship. They shared a common theme, he’s fed up with me, our sex life, I’ve changed, he isn’t sexually attracted to me. I’m a miserable person, exhausting and difficult to be around. Always picking fights. I don’t talk to him unless it’s about the kids. He wants out but is waiting until our kids are older.
I’m shocked by what I have read. I don’t recognize the person he’s talking about. There are some traits I recognize in him. I ask him about his day, don’t get much back but I always do. I tell him I love him and I mean it. I have been trying to plan date nights but he isn’t interested. I check in with him but he’s never outwardly complained. I initiate sex but get rejected. It’s not all wrong what he wrote. For some time now our relationship has been on a downward spiral. It’s been 5 months since we last had sex. Since New Year’s Eve to be exact, only because we were drunk and my parents had our kids. We have twins under 5.
Do I ask him to be honest with me about his feelings? Do I screenshot everything and share what I have found? Do I accept that our relationship is beyond recovery? What do I do?