Husband and I spend the weeks alone fighting. Can someone explain the pattern? I am at a loss
Hey all. I am in need of advice and solidarity. Husband has a daughter we share 50/50 with her mom. I do not have any of my own. Each week when it’s about time his daughter goes to her mom I feel relief and believe I will have a week of childfree bliss, sex and rest. But without fail my husband and I will fight every single day until she is back, we make up on the last day and her week is great and without snags or any karfuffle. This pattern is driving me crazy and we can’t figure it out. I have theories but don’t know how to go about it to fixing it. My theories are: 1. I want to be left alone to my own thoughts and silence after a week of nonstop talking around me and my husband the extrovert is now redirecting his energy to me. 2. All the bickering we brush under the rug while kid is with us finally comes out and we can talk openly, because we do not fight in front of her we just kinda communicate with looks. He is grumpy in the mornings and I am grumpy in the evenings so it all comes out freely when she’s not here.
Help! I think I mostly want to know if this happens to other people.