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I’ve been here and asked about dealing with deconstruction and kids. I’ve finally decided to stop attending church after a year or so of being on the fence. Prior to today my concern has been just navigating this whole being married and having kids and being on the same page. I haven’t said too many things outright out of respect that my husband and I had together decided to raise our kids in our faith. I try to be sort of diplomatic in my approach to things around faith and church.

My 9 year old is having like an existential crisis about all of this. She’s asking about if dinosaurs are real how can Adam and Eve be real? They brought sin (which brought death) so… the dinosaurs couldn’t have hunted other animals. I asked her where she heard that and she said she thought it herself which impressed me lol (but I’m biased haha). In the past of course I would have said basically the bible is real because the Bible itself says it’s the truth and we trust god. She’s also saying that all the religions make sense to her and how does she just pick one?

All of these are wonderful questions but she’s in a confused and panicked state over it. She’s worried she would go to hell if she picks wrong. I did ask her if she thinks god is loving and loves her. She said yes. I asked her does she think that if god loves her that much that he would be mad at her for not being exactly right. That seemed to help a tiny bit. But I’m wondering if anyone has had these questions lobbed at that by their kid and how do you respond?

My mom passed away a couple of years ago so I think the idea of heaven not being real is messing with her a little bit also.

Are we crazy for considering this? My husbands boss buys new vehicles for himself and the traveling sales staff then passes them down when they need to buy a new one and then sells it when it’s just done.

Details: $5000, 200,000 miles on it. The interior at least is like pristine. However it does need a timing chain replaced that was quoted for $4k so essentially it’s a $9000 vehicle. It has towed some, but that wasn’t what it was mainly used for (so maybe every 6 months it was used for towing).

Pros: it’s seriously the nicest car we could even imagine buying. If we go anywhere else and try to buy something for $9k we are not getting this.

Cons: I don’t want to be taken in by the bells and whistles, but it just breaks down next week.

We’ve gotten other SUVs from him but only GMC and they’ve driven into the 300k range. I had zero experience with Ford and I’m not sure if we should just pass.