Finding it hard to make gay friends in my mid/late 30s
Is it just me or does anyone else find it hard to make gay friends or find a boyfriend once you're in your 30s? Throughout my 20's, everyone seemed open and friendly, but now, no one seems interested in making or adding new friends or dating. I'm in my mid 30s and have zero gay friends in my area (Central/Southwest Ohio). I've tried every friend/dating app I can think of and never had any luck. Most of the guys want sex and that's it. All the gay friends I've had have either moved away, cut ties once they got into a relationship, or keep me as an acquaintance and never allowing the friendship to truly flourish. I'm finding myself feeling very alone these days. I've tried a few gay meet up events, but unfortunately everyone there seemed to already know each other or was standoffish and judgmental, only wanting to talk/befriend people who was more attractive or fit. I've visited every gay bar in an 80 mile radius and experienced the same thing there. Am I doing something wrong? Could there be something about me that people don't like? I'm kind, giving, and thoughtful, always going out of my way for people. I take care of my health and would say I'm relatively attractive as a person. Any thoughts?