My boyfriend is so petty
My (F23) boyfriend (M25) is so petty. This situation happened over the long weekend and I need some clarity on how to move forward or if I should at all. His friend invited him to a game night next weekend over the phone while we were driving home from the cottage. At the game night, it’ll be his friend and his girlfriend, another couple, and he invited my boyfriend and I as well. I initially said I didn’t want to go, as I don’t typically like meeting new people (I have already met his friend and his girlfriend, but not the other couple - my boyfriend has also not met them). My boyfriend says that he has already told him he is coming and it would be rude to cancel. I didn’t say anything as I was just wrapping my head around convincing myself I can go and that meeting new people is not a big deal. My boyfriend then suggests if I don’t want to go then he will go alone. This upset me, as I am obviously not going to sit at home while he is out on a couple game night alone. I would have preferred him to say that he has already said yes so we have to go. I didn’t say anything and we didn’t talk for an hour and a half (the rest of the car ride home)
When we got home I helped unpack the car, but we didn’t speak at all. We had previously discussed that I was going to order us diner when we got home. Just because we weren’t speaking didn’t mean I wasn’t going to order him food. He was in our room and I was on the couch, still not speaking. His phone is connected to the buzzer in our building, so 5 minutes before the food came I went to go speak to him in the bedroom to clear things up so that we could eat together when it came. I went to speak to him and asked him if he wanted to talk, he said he didn’t really want to talk. I tried to explain to him anyways that I will come to game night he just said that I was bored and emotional to still be talking about this. I was frustrated and said I was so over this and he told me to go home (my parents house).
To be clear, we live together, but it was initially his apartment. We’ve lived together for a year. I walked away and went back to the couch. When the food came, he brought it to the kitchen then walked away back to the bedroom. I was crying and I’m sure he heard me but he didn’t come to check on me. I ate my food then watched some tv by the couch, and he eventually came to the kitchen to eat as well. He didn’t say anything to me, not even a thank you for ordering the food. He ate and went back to the room. At our usual bed time I came to bed, then I asked if he wanted to talk again and he asked what I wanted to say. I told him I’ve thought about it and will come to game night, but I thought the way he acted tonight was rude. He said I was rude as well and wouldn’t elaborate. We went to sleep and he didn’t say goodnight or I love you, like he usually does.
In the morning, he didn’t speak to me. I didn’t attempt to speak to him either, as I was waiting to see if he would be the bigger person. He said good bye when he was leaving for work. He usually says I love you and gives me a kiss before leaving. I walked to the front door as he was leaving to lock it (also giving him another chance to say good bye as we usually do), and he slammed the door in my face.
I’m really frustrated by the situation and do not feel loved. We have been dating for a year and a half and I find that whenever I am annoyed by his behaviour he just gets annoyed with me instead of trying to understand where I am coming from. This situation could’ve been resolved in two seconds and I gave him many opportunities to talk things over and move on but he doesn’t take any of them. I think that he would prefer if I would just ignore it and move on, but that’s not how I am and I have explained this to him many times. We have many plans for our future together and have a dog. He is my best friend but this issue of me “being emotional” seems to come up often, when I don’t feel I am being overly emotional. I feel like so many of our “arguments” would not even be big issues if he worked with me to address them shortly after. For example, I know If I text him now trying to tell him any of this he will get annoyed that I am still speaking on this “stupid” situation. What should I do?