Advice on how to “dump” friend group
I’ll try to make this short. I’ve been apart of this local mom group for a year now. Started off with going on walks with them 2-3 times a month. Then I joined their book club which is once a month. Then started going to other events. I kinda felt like I needed it at the time so it forced me out of the house with my baby. Well she’s 16 months now and now I’m feeling like myself again. I’m the youngest in the group at 26 and everyone else is almost 40 or is 40 and above. So really; all we have in common is being a mom tbh. They never get my jokes or what I’m talking about. Book club is hard because I don’t like the same books. They added me to a group chat, and they just complain about their shitty husbands or how much they don’t like their kids. I love my husband lol. 3 months ago they asked me if I wanted to hell host walks since I go so often. I made a terrible mistake of saying yes. I thought it was be fun. It’s been AWFUL. now that I’m out of the trenches, I workout, I meal prep instead of take out, I’m running again etc, I’m BUSY, and also I’ve realized that I never REALLY talk to anyone I just listen to their conversations on our walks/ meets up. Not only am I busy, and I don’t feel like I belong I feel like they’re pawning off events onto me. It was fun at first but it’s just exhausting so I can see why they did that. They expect me to be at every single meet up (multiple times a month; around 4-8), and the main mom has started to hint at taking a step back from the group. Sorry this is so disorganized but I’m using a phone btw! They asked me to help make content for their social media which includes making a monthly calendar, and flyers for EACH EVENT, which takes me HOURS because I take pride in my work. The main mom is kinda pushy and rude about it. Basically giving me deadlines like she’s my boss and paying me, and telling me in not so nice ways to change it because she doesn’t like when she’s said before “just use you’re creativity! Whatever is fine!”. So I’ve made them then had to remake them. Anyways, I’m just tired. I don’t wanna do it anymore. I have too much on my plate plus I’m moving currently/ packing up with a toddler. I’m tired of the shit talking about husbands (just leave him), I’m tired of them obsessing over sex in books at book club, I’m tired of trying to relate to older woman who don’t get me, I’m tired of feeling like I’m being used for my Canva skills. What would be the best way to politely leave the group, especially since this is almost like a PTA sort of situation where I’m a “worker” of this group. We have events coming up that I’m suppose to host, and I just don’t wanna be a bitch about leaving since otherwise everyone has been nice to me, I just don’t vibe well with the group, I do live in a smaller town so I’ll probably bump into them every so often too. Send help!