When we were a month into seeing each other we were having some very deep intimate conversations about our pasts and our previous relationships. During these conversations it was brought up about contact with previous partners. We both said we removed people we’d been involved with as that’s “just how we were”. We are now 9 months in (6 months together) and it has come to light that she has lied about a few things but also had multiple people that she’d been involved with in her recent chats on multiple social media platforms. I said that it’s not the action itself but lying about it that’s the problem. That when we were talking about these things there was no wrong answer but now that she’s been hiding it for months and months it seems suspicious and hurtful because I can’t understand why that would need to be hidden or lied about unless there was somewhat malicious intent? I need advice.
EDIT: I should also make comment that the conversation also involved us both stating that we’d been hurt and lied to in the past and preferred to remove partners to remove complications and we agreed we liked the idea of our potential partners being the same.