AITH for cancelling girls trip?
I (21F) am considering canceling an upcoming weekend trip with a friend, and I feel guilty about it.
My friend loves to go to raves and music festivals and Ive gone to a few little raves with her- but never an out of town festival. I don’t really have any friends outside of her and I always see her going on these trips with her other friends, so when she invited me to one I was pretty excited at the idea of a girls trip. I’ve never been on one. I didn’t think twice about the money because I usually have plenty left over to spend and save with each paycheck, AND she asked me in February when the trip isn’t until August.
It’s just a two day music festival and her other friends are also young adults with young adult jobs who have rent to pay- so I never imagined it would be too expensive. I expected maybe 300 on my end for the hotel, and a 3-400 flight?
I was so wrong…..
She didn’t want to stay in a “gross hotel” so we booked one that’s $1,100 (split halfway, $600 each) because she wasn’t at all interested in anything cheaper. Now I’m looking at flights and it’s estimated to not drop below $780. This isn’t even counting spending money, tickets and alcohol.
For context- this friend is a party girl. She’s always had financial support from her family- she lives in a nice condo that her parents own and she doesn’t have to pay rent at all. They also help her pay other bills, so I guess it makes sense she doesn’t find these prices to be insane.
I’m trying to save money right now to get my first car and I had over $2000 in my savings when we started planning this trip- but now I have less than $700 in my savings and a lot of that has gone to the trip. I live with my family in a tiny basement bedroom, I work full time, pay a few hundred for rent and until I get a car I take the train at night which is a 2+ hour commute AFTER just working 10-11 hours.
I also have other priorities right now like my pets and my dental care.
My boyfriend has been telling me since we got the expensive hotel to back out altogether- but I feel terrible for even considering it. It was so irresponsible and careless of me to not do any research on this area before agreeing to go, and it would be really selfish to make her suffer the consequences of my poor decisions by backing out and her having to scramble to find someone else or just go by herself. I feel like I made a commitment and I have to figure it out… but I’m worried about my financial stability and I have no idea how I’ll get a car any time soon now .. :(