
AITAH SAHM edition
My husband (37) and I (37) have been together now for 6 years. We have a 2.5yr old and a 6 month old. My first mother's day was spent at his brother's house for a mother's day brunch that we were late to because he told me 45min before it was supposed to start.... I had neither showered or knew it was going to happen and we had a 5 month old at the time and I was exclusively pumping. At the brunch my SIL made many "boy moms are better" remarks the entire morning (I have a daughter) and couldn't stop talking about how I didn't want a drink. It wasn't exactly a memorable day. My second MD was a complete miss. He didn't remember, so nothing planned, nothing said, nothing. so it was a day watching many moms receiving flowers and love. For me another day. Now this is the third round. My bar was loww. Leading up to this special day he talked about how he kept receiving my gifts in the mail. Box after Amazon box. He debated to give it to me early. Saturday I had planned a whole outing for our 2yr old (she's been wanting a little more mom time as I have been busy with our 6 month old) we drove to a nearby farm that had highland cows, we went to a children's museum, ate at a restaurant husband chose. I did everything as I normally do for the day (diaper bags, snacks, bottle prep, clothes, you get the point). Once we got home he wanted to give me my gifts. He opened the Amazon boxes and handed me 3 boxes of crackers (one being my husbands favorite), a crispy chili jar, and a variety of my husbands favorite jams in a mini pack. One goldish necklace from Amazon.
I didn't know seeing crackers as a mother's Day gift would make me feel so hurt as it did but I began to cry. My husband made it seem like I was ungrateful but I told him these are things I can get myself when I already go to the grocery store with the kids. He gave me a necklace off Amazon before in gold which I did like because it had my kids initials for Christmas but I very kindly explained I'm not a gold person which is why I rarely wear it. I have and always wear silver. Earrings, necklaces, rings, my wedding ring is silver. I'm a SAHM that does everything. I cook, clean, do laundry, go grocery shopping, all while taking care of our kids. I even take our kids to activities/classes 2 days a week.
My husband is making it seem like I'm the asshole for reacting this way. I just need perspective if I have my expectations too high or? Here's a photo of it and my husband's already eating the almond crackers that he loves and I normally don't eat crackers.