AITAH for not wanting to go back to mi previous workload after giving birth?!
I (F39) have been with my partner (M41) for almost 9 years. We have a young child together and also run businesses together.
Before having our child, I worked long hours and was very involved in the business. Since becoming a mother, my priorities and capacity have changed.
Right now, I'm handling most of the childcare and a large part of the household responsibilities. Despite that, my partner expects me to go back to working the same way I did before - long hours, high involvement, no real limits
We tried a setup where he would take care of our child while I worked, but in practice I still ended up managing most of our child's routine (meals, naps, sleep), while also working and taking care of other responsibilities.
One of the biggest issues is that he doesn't want to take on a full transition into being a primary caregiver, but at the same time expects me to step back into my previous workload.
He has even told me that because of my decision not to return to work at that level, he feels like he "can't fully be a father" or that I'm limiting him - which is confusing to me, because I feel like I'm already carrying most of the parenting responsibilities
I've tried to explain that I need a more balanced and realistic arrangement, but these conversations usually turn into blame or get dismissed.
At this point, I feel emotionally and physically drained, and I don't want to continue like this - either in the business or in this dynamic.
He believes I've changed too much and that I should be able to handle everything like before.
I feel like I'm being pushed beyond my limits
So AlTAH for refusing to go back to my previous workload and questioning whether I can continue like this?