u/adultingmadness

Hello po, first time ko mag apply sa Europe pero may travel history na sa Taiwan at Thailand at currently naka multiple visa for Japan.

Next week na schedule ko sa embassy at gusto ko lang po mag tanong ano ba ang process pag dating sa embassy? Ano ang mga usual na tanong?

So far ok pa naman kami sa documents. Pero worried ako na red flag daw pag Filipina at may boyfriend na kikitain sa Europe. Makakatulong ba sa case namin na nagkita na kami for a week in Japan last year at mag vi-visit sya ng 1 week sa Pinas? kaso dahil sa schedule nya sa work, first week of June na sya makakapunta. Naka lagay din ito sa cover letter nya. Balak namin sabihin na sabay na kami ng flight sa Spain kung papalarin kami

Yung employment ko din worried ako. Feb ako nag resign sa company then I declared na from March nag work na ako sa family business. Nag attach din ako ng documents ng business namin, permits, BIR, ITR etc. nag attach din ako ng deed of sale ng property.

Wala akong makitang source kung ano ang step by step process once mag show up ako sa embassy at yung mga usual na tanong. Sana po matulungan nyo po ako. Salamat po

These days I find myself sweeping and mopping the floors of our small store/eatery. Serving drinks and food just like I used to all those years ago.

I left a really nice job (according to society's standards) from the city because of a problematic boss. It was a job that feed my ego real good and have me earned money and sustained me financially. Nice apartment, business trips almost every month, high stakes meetings with the executives and all that knowledge from different people from the top.

And now as I mop the floors and think what life is like last year and years before that, I'm glad that I wasn't able to let go of my roots here. That I transitioned back to where I started with gratefulness cause I got to experience that kind of life and I get to settled back in my hometown nice and slow with my family. I am grateful to my family and to my mother who has always taught me to never let my feet off the ground especially when worldly pleasures are within reach.

I am reminded that going back to where you started is not as bad all the time. I'm glad that I chose myself over that city life. And although I am scared with what's coming next, I am so glad to be back here and be able to breathe and spend time with family.

Some years ago may kamag anak na nang trash talk sa nanay ko via FB post at nag trash talk din mga anak ng said relative kasama yung ibang kamag anak namin na makakapal ang muka.

Nag initiate ang nanay ko magpagawa ng bahay sa probinsya para pag may gustong umuwi na kamag anak pwede nilang gamitin. Lahat welcome.

Merong care taker yung bahay at nag request si mama na bigyan ng 1k yung care taker kasi naglinis, nilabhan mga kurtina etc. nagalit si shunga kay lupa daw nila yun at bat sya kelangan singilin at ngayon lang daw sya naka experience na sa property nila, sya pa ang dapat mag bayad. Take note na itong relative na to tuwing umuuwi sa probinsya na laging nakikisabay samin, ni-sinkong duling wala man lang binibigay at never kong narinig mag thank you sa nanay ko. At yung lupa na matagal ng naka tengga, wala man lang nag pa repair nung original ancestral house hanggang sa nagiba na lang...tanging mama ko lang nakaisip pagawan ng bahay.

Grabe yung self esteem issues na pinag daanan ni mama that time at syempre kami galit. Few months after that humihingi na ulit ng tulong at nanghiram ng sasakyan. saka ako nag message sa kanila na tigilan na nila kami sabay block

Fast forward to now, itong relative na ito nabalitaan na uuwi kami sa probinsya at gustong makisabay dahil walang pamasahe. Lulunukin na lang daw nya pride nya according dun sa isa naming relative. Sinabihan ko na mag post kamo ulit at mag comment ang mga anak nya na humihingi ng pasensya. Wala na akong nabalitaan after that convo.

The audacity at kakapalan ng muka. Literal na panira ng trip. Now kinausap ko mama ko, napatawad na daw nya. Ok lang sakin at good for her kung napatawad na nya at ok nyang pasabayin, pero dahil ako hindi ako ok, hindi na lang ako sasama pag nandyan yang kamag anak na yan. Kinausap ko other relatives ko at yung iba kalimutan na lang daw at wag na lang imikin. Hell no. At parang ako pa ang masama dahil galit parin ako. Take note na hindi yan humingi ng pasensya at walang balak humingi yan for sure.

I want to send a message na hindi kami doormat na madaling apak apakan. At the same time gusto pa rin i-maintain yung good relationship sa ibang kamag anak na maayos pa naman ang pakitungo sa amin. Let me hear your thoughts. Thank you