am i selfish???
i [22F] have been on and off with my boyfriend [23M] for about a year. we met on a dating app and we really kicked it off, we have such similar interests and similar personalities so it was bound to happen. i fell in love with him very soon after and everything was going good for the first 6 months (kinda lol.) a month into our relationship he lost his job which i understood at first because stuff happens and i tried to help him as much as i could. i would buy food, pay for gas, and would sometimes pay for dates. for context, i work a full time job and have had this job for our whole relationship, and i work constantly so of course after 4 months of him sitting at home jobless i kinda felt like he didn’t really care to get his stuff together, especially after telling me constantly how much he wants us to get our own place and that he wants a family down the line. he constantly gave me false promises when i wouldn’t even ask, saying he’ll do this and that and after a while i just started loosing feelings but i didnt feel like it was something i should break it off for. since then, he’s gotten fired from 4 jobs and im starting to think he’s the problem. i tried to be supportive for so long but he just doesn’t take anything serious. i understand we are young and we have so much life to live but a few months ago i just moved into my own place and it’s really hard to do this all alone in this economy especially living off a minimum wage job. he knows this and just tries to tell me i can still do everything on my own, i want to go to school but i can’t go to school because i wouldn’t be able to work full time and school full time. i obviously don’t want him to support me, but after months of him saying that’s what he WANTS to do without me even asking for that, it makes me very frustrated. am i selfish for feeling this way after everything he’s promised me?