u/achiillles

I’m 10 weeks pregnant today. I’m 6’2, and even pre-pregnancy, I was weighing at about 230 lbs with an O cup chest. Ive only gained about 10 pounds of pregnancy weight so far, and I’ve been told to expect more. (Which, duh). This doesn’t bother me one bit, I know I’m growing a new life inside me, I know I’m going to get bigger.

One thing that I’ve noticed a lot in this community though, and its making me feel……Some Type Of Way, is the way a lot of smaller women talk about their weight gain from pregnancy, while being 3 times smaller than me (or any other person who isnt 100 lbs soaking wet). Its really weird to be 200+, and seeing people crying because they ‘feel disgusting and ashamed’ (actual words another redditor used to describe how she felt now being 130 lbs instead of 105…) because they made it to 120 lbs or 150 or 180 or etc.

Or how everyone in the replies sounds like ‘Dont worry, youre not FAT! Its the pregnancy! Once youre not pregnant anymore, all that BIG NASTY FATNESS will go away and you will be NORMAL AND BEAUTIFUL again!🥰’

Meanwhile the 9 month pregnancy weight they’ve gained is still less than my normal baseline weight, pre-pregnancy.

It’s just odd to go somewhere that’s supposed to be inclusive and supportive and see how everyone’s worst nightmare is to look how I normally do, even without being pregnant. And I’m going to probably get to almost or near 270, maybe even 280, and its disheartening to hear people harp on and on about ugly they feel at a weight I havent been since high school.

I mean right before I got pregnant I worked as a Nanny for a woman who was 5’4 and 120 lbs and she would constantly complain to me that she cant get to the gym anymore and thus shes ‘let herself go’ and ‘is so fat now’ and ‘I used to have abs’ and ‘I used to be 105 now im 120!’ And ‘I feel so flabby and gross’ right to my face as I stand there twice her damn size.

And yes, before you mention it, I know I’m 6’2, yes I know I’m busty, so you might say I ‘carry my weight differently’ but I’m still a size 20 dress and 1X (not to be confused with XL) on a good day.

Are there any other plus size people feeling the same? It feels exactly like going clothes shopping with your skinny friends and hearing them complain about ‘being soooo fat omg’ and youre standing there 100lbs heavier than them like🧍🏽‍♀️ If you think YOURE fat, then what am I???

EDIT: All of a sudden everyone is willfully obtuse and doesnt understand how talking about yourself badly can affect others. Maybe I should put it this way:

Would you want a mother (or a teacher) who has body image issues to constantly be using negative language in regard to her body and her weight, in front of her teenager/child(ren) who is plus size/bigger than her? No? Why not??? I think you understand why. The same concept applies here. Same thing with internalized racism. Just because you might hate being black doesnt mean you get to call your natural hair type (and by extension others’) ‘unkempt’ and ‘wild’ and ‘unprofessional’

EDIT2: So the gist of what Im getting is that we, as plus size people, should give grace to smaller people using harsh and ugly language to describe their weight gain, but it only goes one way and the smaller people should not have to have compassion or give grace to bigger people struggling with weight gain/body issues because……I still havent gotten a reason WHY, but, that’s the sentiment a lot of you seem to have. Good to know!

Did you know that if you ask smaller/petite/skinny people to be mindful of the harsh and mean language they use to describe their weight gain, as there are people bigger than them ALSO gaining pregnancy weight and ALSO looking for comfort in their weight gain, that people will call you all types of names and insults? Fascinating! Thanks r/pregnant. I never woulda known!

I’m 10 weeks pregnant today. I’m 6’2, and even pre-pregnancy, I was weighing at about 230 lbs with an O cup chest. Ive only gained about 10 pounds of pregnancy weight so far, and I’ve been told to expect more. (Which, duh). This doesn’t bother me one bit, I know I’m growing a new life inside me, I know I’m going to get bigger.

One thing that I’ve noticed a lot in this community though, and its making me feel……Some Type Of Way, is the way a lot of smaller women talk about their weight gain from pregnancy, while being 3 times smaller than me (or any other person who isnt 100 lbs soaking wet). Its really weird to be 200+, and seeing people crying because they ‘feel disgusting and ashamed’ (actual words another redditor used to describe how she felt now being 130 lbs instead of 105…) because they made it to 120 lbs or 150 or 180 or etc.

Or how everyone in the replies sounds like ‘Dont worry, youre not FAT! Its the pregnancy! Once youre not pregnant anymore, all that BIG NASTY FATNESS will go away and you will be NORMAL AND BEAUTIFUL again!🥰’

Meanwhile the 9 month pregnancy weight they’ve gained is still less than my normal baseline weight, pre-pregnancy.

It’s just odd to go somewhere that’s supposed to be inclusive and supportive and see how everyone’s worst nightmare is to look how I normally do, even without being pregnant. And I’m going to probably get to almost or near 270, maybe even 280, and its disheartening to hear people harp on and on about ugly they feel at a weight I havent been since high school.

I mean right before I got pregnant I worked as a Nanny for a woman who was 5’4 and 120 lbs and she would constantly complain to me that she cant get to the gym anymore and thus shes ‘let herself go’ and ‘is so fat now’ and ‘I used to have abs’ and ‘I used to be 105 now im 120!’ And ‘I feel so flabby and gross’ right to my face as I stand there twice her damn size.

And yes, before you mention it, I know I’m 6’2, yes I know I’m busty, so you might say I ‘carry my weight differently’ but I’m still a size 20 dress and 1X (not to be confused with XL) on a good day.

Are there any other plus size people feeling the same? It feels exactly like going clothes shopping with your skinny friends and hearing them complain about ‘being soooo fat omg’ and youre standing there 100lbs heavier than them like🧍🏽‍♀️ If you think YOURE fat, then what am I???

I’m a new BT starting out just last Monday, and I’m at a loss.

I was VERY clear during my interview that although I have experience with childcare and special needs children, but I have never worked as a BT or in ABA therapy.

So far, my ‘training’ has consisted of:

1. One 1.5 hr long video I was instructed to watch before ny first session with a client

2. A 30 minute zoom call showing how to use their UI (Central Reach)

3. A 30 minute zoom call discussing the client and age, progress so far, etc.

4. 1 partially Zoom-shadowed session (as the assigned BCBA signed on late, was preoccupied doing something else off screen and actually ended the call to briefly step away and call back later) on the very first day.

I’m feeling extremely out of my depth here, and the company is well aware that this is my first job as a BT and that I havent done this before previously.

On Monday 4/27 I was sent out to the client’s home, and that was the last Ive heard from my BCBA, or anybody, frankly, until this morning when I received several emails detailing the many alleged mistakes I made with my paperwork.

This is a little frustrating, considering I feel like Ive been dumped into the deep end with no prep. Did I mention I was asked if I spoke Spanish, responded that I spoke a LITTLE, and was then immediately paired with a client whos family ONLY speaks Spanish and cannot speak any English.

Is this normal??? How much training did you get as a BT and what did it look like? I feel like I’m going nuts and not giving my client the support she needs, and I’m trying to figure out if this company is right for me.

I've just started as a BT, and although I'm not new to chilcare, or childcare involving special needs children (I'm a former preschool teacher, current Nanny, have worked in many daycares and private schools etc) I AM new to the world of ABA Therapy.

I was initially very excited to start, as I do genuinely feel like this career path is an amazing choice for me. However, I'm shocked at what appears to be a complete lack of training?

I feel thrown into the deep end. I was hired and told my start date would be 4/27. Awesome! Up until then, the only correspondence I'd had with the company was my initial Zoom interview in which I was offered the job on the spot.

Then, after filling out new hire paperwork, I was told to set up a time for 1 on 1 training before my first session, and given one 1.5 hour training video to watch. The 1 on 1 training turned out to just be a guided tutorial in how to use the Website/App they use for data collection.

With that all being said and done, I also spoke with the BCBA to discuss the client for about 30 minutes, a few days before my first day, and I was told my BCBA would be shadowing me while I completed my first session.

Since the first session, I've only been shadowed just that initial time, and haven't really had any chance or opportunity for training since. There was a group training zoom session that I had to unfortunately miss because it had been scheduled during my clients hours.

I got an email this morning detailing mistakes and errors I've made during the notation/data entry process and I'm honestly pretty embarrassed. As someone who's ran entire classrooms, summer camp programs, preschool graduations and lesson plans, and entire stores when I still worked retail, I pride myself on being a fast learner and adapting to new UIs and company technology/methods pretty quickly. But I also can't help but feel like I've been thrown in with little to know preparation.

Other BTs and people who work in ABA Therapy: is this the norm? Should I expect to be pretty much left to my own devices? Not to mention my first client is nonverbal and the family speaks primarily Spanish, (I did mention in my interview that I spoke a LITTLE bit of Spanish, but now they've got me with a family I am using Google translate to communicate with.

I think at the end of the day I was just expecting more training, and more time being shadowed or helped by a supervisor. It's embarrassing to be doing what I view as 'poorly' so quickly after starting.

Anyone else experience something similar?

EDIT: Changed it from RBT to BT, I was in a rush while writing this.
I also would like to know if any OTHER BT was given NO training before their first client. I was literally given one (1) video and 1 tutorial on how to enter data.