Looked through every category on the craftbot.
Is there some other craftbot I need to make at some location? Maybe I need to max upgrade the craftbot to unlock pistons? Can I only find pistons in the world and there's a finite amount of them?
I've only got maybe 20 hours in the game, so I've got a lot to learn
I know good and well that this is riddled with red flags on both sides. I'm by no means innocent, and I can't imagine she is either.
For starters, I have significant issues reading people. When she was introduced to me for the second time (met her in person a couple years back, just got reintroduced seeing she completely forgot about me, which is valid) she came into the conversation extremely hot and heavy, instantly flirtatious and sexual, throwing my calm demeanor and my game all the way off. My cousin and my friends were in my dms telling me I'm absolutely selling with how cold and dry I was being. This woman left me in complete shock with how unique she was acting. Out of the 70 or 80 women I've tried dating over the years, she's absolutely one of a kind.
After that initial situation, we found a steady pace to communicate. We would voice/video call 1 on 1 due to the current distance, and we all set up a plan for a double date in July. It seemed like a great way to get to know each other and have everyone feel a lot less tension about it.
Today I got the news from my cousin, he was doing some extracurricular snooping about her by talking to her exes from their mutual job. They all agreed she's "ran through" and "desperate for male validation". These are both things she's been vulnerable with me about and expressed to me to show as much brutal honesty as possible. She even went into graphic detail about her past relationships with these guys with me to make sure that I know exactly what I'm getting myself into. I accepted her as she is. I hold no grudge or disgust against her past.
She has been telling me and proving to me that she's changing her past ways, she's been very prude with me at times and very forward others. It's been a bit of hot and cold, like she's trying to express interest in me while also still maintaining some modesty. I have tried initiating more than just our talking stage a few times, but was respectfully shot down. I respected the boundaries she has set and I haven't asked since.
Past almost a week now, she's been distant and dry with me, no more voice or video calls. We used to be very close for a while, but now feel kinda distant. I send her good morning texts that normally go unanswered.
She's a working woman, she's supposed to be working 7 days straight before a bachelorette party, and she just caught strep as well as another virus as of 2 days ago now. I'm suspecting that she's just very busy and very sick, so things will resume as normal once she's better and no longer busy.
My group has started telling me I need to stop pursuing her entirely and move on, but I feel like I should keep giving her chance after chance. Things haven't aligned perfectly with her, but she's all around seemed like a good woman to me in the almost 10 days we've been talking. I feel its really just too early to flat out say we could never be. It's also been pretty wild the way the two of us have acted with each other, like we've already been in a relationship for years. I feel we have great chemistry.
I'm all around just feeling unsure about what to do. I know I'm no good man, I'm told she's no good woman. Maybe we'll work out and make each other better people, even if we decide we aren't forever?
For her, it's been a few months since her last relationship, which only lasted a couple weeks. That guy was an absolute asshole. They were sexually active from what she told me, and it's really nothing for me to be upset about. It was before I was in the picture, so there's no reason for me to reject or judge her for what she did then.
For me, I've never been sexually active. I've had my fair share of offers, but have always turned them down. I seek a deep, meaningful, lifelong love before something like that. I want my first time to be with my last woman ever, someone truly special that I will know as a fact is going to be my life partner. I have dated a lot of women long distance, kind of an excessive amount, I've talked to many women as well, yet she's the only one that CONSTANTLY keeps me guessing. I can never get more than a vague answer out of her and it drives me insane.
She's told me she's more interested in male validation and doesn't wanna date based on her past horrible and traumatic experiences with men, but she will turn around and brag to her friends and Mom about how I make her feel special and like she's the only woman in the world. I'm getting nothing but mixed signals here and I CRAVE direct communication. I need to know what you're wanting, how you're feeling about us, and where you'd be interested in seeing us going. I want to know if I'm wanted. She has shown interest in me in very subtle ways, but nothing that screams "you're mine"
I'm all around just confused here. I don't know what I'm supposed to think, I'm told how I should feel, but feel that's wrong. My group is telling me not to go through with my plans with her and cease interest. Save myself for a better woman as if there is one out there.
I suppose what I wanna ask y'all is should I continue with my plan of waiting for her to no longer be busy or sick and have a heart to heart with her to see her intentions? It'll be roughly around week 3 of being in the talking phase. I feel I owe her the right to know what I see us as and what we could be. I feel I should tell her what I want out of a relationship and the things I need to feel comfortable. I also wanna hear her out and see if we align like that before we decide to officially date or just be friends.
Am I justified for wanting communication instead of just kicking her to the curb like everyone tells me to?
My tank has been infested with ants for a few months now, a harmless species that can't sting, but I've noticed their numbers are growing and I'm seeing fewer and fewer isopods. I suspect that the ants are starting to run out of food and are seeking the isopods, despite the fact that there more often than not a spare cricket appendage from feeding time.
I'm taking a page out of Ants Canada's book here and using jello cups to lure the ants out to feed, then I'll simply remove them from the cup once they build up to feed. This should be the safest, cheapest, and most effective way to handle the colony.
I've watched my skink eat them before, and she kept the numbers low for a while, but never low enough to prevent their growth.
I know the rule of thumb here is to completely empty out the setup and start over once ants invade, but that's gonna be about $60 in substrate alone to replace what's there, not to mention the fact I'd lose all the isopods and springtails in my setup. Even if I did change the soil to get rid of the ants, we get nuptual flights from numerous species year round here in Florida. This means my tank is perpetually susceptible to invasion and buying new soil won't fix the issue.
I'm doing my best to take any approach that:
- doesn't stress out my skink
- doesn't get insanely expensive and beyond my budget
- won't harm my skink, isopods, plants, and/or springtails
- is effective without using poison
I got a 12 pack of these jello cups for $1.50 today, and they're by far probably the cheapest and safest option for eradication. I'll probably only keep it in the tank once a week to make sure my skink doesn't get too much of the jello and cause health issues. I'll be closely monitoring her and the jello regardless, so no need to worry about her getting sick from eating too much. She's gonna get a taste and nothing more.
I admit, 6 inches ain't much for depth, could use more soil mix, just gotta scrape up the funds for a larger tank and get her moved over again.
Even still, she's so much more active during the day if I provide her with the ability to climb. I've noticed she feels more comfortable when she can climb like this and have more than just soil to live in. She's fully grown and nearing 3 years old.
I'll probably need about a 200 gallon tank to meet the needs people say she has, which is crazy to think about. She's in a 35 now, which was the high end on the recommend size from the research I did back in 2023.
I'm just glad she's healthy, she can run full speed from one side of the tank to the other, and that she can't find a way to hurt herself when she climbs like this.
I've noticed she's got 3 distinct, separate places she burrows. She'll burrow in the pure sand side when she needs to dry out some. It's warm and dry there, insects avoid this side of the tank. The middle of the tank is somewhere between dry and damp, perfect to help her out when she's about to shed. The far right side of the tank is the moist side. This is where the springtails and isopods reside. It's not soaking wet, but it's ideal for them. She goes over there if it gets too warm outside or if she just wants a cool nap I suppose. I've been wanting to get some more plants over there that are both safe for her and absorb the moisture a little better for moisture control. She absolutely loves to run through her water dish and soak her substrate until her dish runs dry and the moisture layers bleed together. It's been a unique issue to try and figure out, and I still haven't quite solved that yet. Tips for that are welcome
Overall, I doubt she's in complete misery like others have told me here. I plan on eventually upgrading the setup regardless, but it's not in the cards currently. I've had her since the day she hatched, and I'm pretty sure she's doing just fine with the dedication and care I provide. She's challenging, but she's happy