WIBTBF If I reported a teacher after my friend explicitly told me not to?
I’m not sure if this counts as NSFW. Welp…
For some context, I (F16) go to a private school, where things aren’t generally taken seriously, and the schools reputation always matters above everything. I have female teachers who do act strangely towards some of the boys in my class, but it’s always dismissed and the boys enjoy it. I happen to be friends with one of them let’s name him (M17) A. So this teacher let’s name her (F21) S, used to attend our school and has about a five-year age difference with us. She now teaches religious studies to elementary schoolers, but tries to keep a close camaraderie with the high schoolers. We find this a little bit strange because it did seem a little bit inappropriate to be close friends with boys that much younger than you.
A few months ago, my friend A. had face-timed me and brought up a voicemail. Apparently the teacher had A’s phone number and was texting him. He ended up blocking her, and she left a very long voicemail essentially begging him to unblock her almost like a frantic ex. S said she didn’t know what she did wrong and that she just wanted to talk to him again. Everyone agreed that she was very predator-like.
A mentioned how he saw S at a restaurant and when he had gone to the bathroom, she stepped in front of him and told him why are you not talking to me? What did I do wrong? At the time I didn’t feel like it was my place to report it, so I did nothing.
This weekend, I received a text from A that S was spamming him getting upset at him for not responding and for recently blocking her. She even referred to him as an “ugly monkey.” Then S sent a massive paragraph for his 17th birthday at 12 AM. She also somehow heard A was taking his drivers test and wished him good luck.
A sent me a screen recording of their entire chat. Back in the beginning of April they had been texting. S asked what he was doing, and he said he had just gotten out of the shower and she responded with “save me a spot on your bed.” “Can I come over?” A had responded no and that his brother was home and she said it’s fine. Just tell him that I’m coming over to tutor you anatomy and physiology all about the body.
Now I instantly told A it’s not funny anymore and he has to report this especially now that all the proof is there. He said that he wanted to wait until the school year ended. I told A it was wrong and that S teaches elementary school students and who knows how she can be using her authority on others.
A told me not to do anything. He didn’t want all the attention to be on him and potentially ruin S’s family. I said I don’t care and that S shouldn’t be texting and grooming minors to begin with. My friends say I probably shouldn’t say anything because that was on A to report it.
I just feel so guilty having these evidence and videos of a teacher taking advantage of a student and not doing anything about it. So would I be the butt face if I reported her anyway behind his back? What would you have done?