AITBF for starting to respond to my roommate's passive aggressive sticky notes with even more passive aggressive sticky notes?
My roommate and I have been living together for about seven months. Overall its fine, we are not friends but we are civil.
She has this habit of leaving sticky notes instead of just talking to me. At first it was normal stuff, "please don't leave dishes in the sink" or "can you turn off the hallway light." Fine, I can work with that, some people just prefer written communication.
But then the notes started getting a tone. "The dishes AGAIN." With the caps and everything. Then "would be great if someone remembered we share a fridge." Then one that just said "really?" next to my jacket that i had left on the couch for maybe two hours.
I never said anything because honestly confrontation makes me want to leave my own body. But the notes kept coming and I started to feel like I was being quietly scolded every day in my own home.
So three weeks ago i started writing back. Same energy, same format. She left "the bathroom counter is a shared space just saying." I left one that said "the passive aggression is also a shared experience just saying." She left "some of us have early mornings." I left "some of us also live here."
She has not said a word to me about any of it out loud. But the original notes have basically stopped. Now there are occasionally normal ones again, like "I used the last of the dish soap, getting more tomorrow." Which is fine. Great even.
My friend thinks i was being childish and should have just talked to her like an adult. And maybe that's true. But seven months of one sided sticky note lectures and I cracked.
So am I the buttface for fighting sticky note with sticky note instead of using my words?