AITBF for refusing to sell my house, for my BF "wants"?
I never thought I’d be posting here, but I need outside advice.
My BF (Kevin 37M) and I (27F) have been dating a little over 5 months. Things have been going great until recently when we talked about moving in together. He currently lives with his mom and said he wants to move in with me because I own and he doesn't.
For some context, I own a 4bd/2.5bth that I bought at 20 and my Mama and brother (Jared) live with me. We all split bills, so it's not overwhelming to maintain. Its directly across from a hospital and two streets over from a Walmart, prime location.
When Kevin brought up moving in with me I said I’d consider it, but then he said I would first need to kick my Mama and Jared out or sell my house to my Mama so we could move somewhere else together with the funds. I said absolutely not and told him how my mama cannot afford the house on her own, especially with medical bills, and Jared, though helping where he can, but doesn't need to, is on the spectrum and is easily overstimulated and is already 24/7. Kevin knows all of this.
He called me "dickish" for not making it work for him and said I should be 100% on his side since we’re in a relationship. He also said that my brother is home too often and that living with my mom is "childish"... even though he is living with his mom as I type this!
I asked what the real reason was and he admitted he wants them gone only so we can have sex!
Excuse me!? He knows I have no interest in sex. I’ve been very clear from the start that I don’t want a sexual relationship unless it’s specifically to have a child someday. He agreed to that prior to dating and said he was fine with a platonic relationship.
Now he’s started pushing for sex both direct and indirectly, saying he’ll, "change my mind.” It feels like he's just pressuring me more and more and it’s making me want to back out. I do care about and love him, but not in a sexual way and I’ve been honest about that.
Just to recap, he wants me to kick my family out or sell my home just so we can "potentially" have sex...which was never promised from the getgo.
I’m starting to feel like this is breakup worthy, but part of me wonders if I’m overreacting. He’s starting to make me feel like I’m the one wrong. I haven't told my Mama or Jared, or Kevin's mother about what going on.
What should I do? AITBF?