Preparing to move out. Wife “doesn’t want us to end this way”
Just need to vent.
Context: My wife hit me with “I want a divorce” in December. At the time I was blindsided. Now, I do see the warning signs. I had been working two jobs, was insanely burned out, and was far from my best self.
She filed in January. We have mediation in August.
She started a long distance relationship immediately.
I found a decent three bedroom for me and the kids. Spent way too much money to furnish it so I could leave the house “in tact” for her and the kids. As a former pastor and follower of Jesus, loving her sacrificially (like Jesus) is important to me. I want the kids to have that example for when life is hard. I’ve been as kind as possible through the whole thing. I move this Thursday.
I was putting some of my things in the garage and found her crying at the dining room table. She shared that she didn’t want us to end this way and expressed second thoughts on this whole thing.
What am I supposed to do with that? Part of me thinks I deserve better… she has treated me pretty poorly through this. Part of me loves her and wants to work on the relationship.
I told her I will still be moving out but might be willing to do counseling and “date” each other again to see if we can work on our differences. The new long distance relationship would have to end obviously.
I don’t even know what I want anymore. Will certainly be talking about this in therapy, but needed to vent. Is this normal?