How do you stay in a marriage like this when it’s just the two of you?
I feel kind of pathetic even writing this, but I need to know if anyone actually understands.
I’m trying to stay in my marriage after being betrayed. My husband leans avoidant and I’m more anxious. When we connect, I feel okay again. When he pulls back—even a little—I spiral and feel like my happiness depends on him reconnecting with me.
What’s hard is I’m putting a lot of effort into working on myself—therapy, meds, journaling, trying to communicate better—while he tends to cope by distracting or avoiding. He’s told me he struggles to open up to me because I used to talk over him, which I understand and am trying to change. But now I feel stuck trying to give him space while also feeling frustrated and unsure of where he stands.
Most people say they stay for the kids. But it’s just us.
So how do you stay in something like this without losing yourself or feeling like your emotional stability depends on them?