We just welcomed our newborn 16 days ago. My 23 month old was not night weaned before hand because he would usually wake up only 2~ times during the night and would quickly nurse to sleep or accept my husband cuddling him back to sleep as well.
We all share a mega family bed and my toddler’s sleep has degraded day by day. I still nurse him to sleep every night though I have had to limit his nursing time due to a strong nursing aversion. Bed time routine goes okay and he has stopped crying after nursing is done the last couple nights, but he now wakes up hourly to ask to nurse, if we don’t he loses it and struggles to go back to sleep. Even if we will but I tell him to wait a little to arrange myself and newborn he loses it all the same and we can’t nurse because he becomes dangerous to the newborn.
I have been trying to maintain our set nursing schedule of wake up, nap, wake up from nap, and bed time nurse sessions. But his asking through the day is pretty frequent, though if denied gets over it better.
We are at a loss on what to do next, we don’t necessarily have the capacity to plan night weaning at the moment and it feels like the least ideal time to put toddler through it. However the nights are just getting worse and we are not getting more capable at handling them since we are so exhausted.
Toddler is going through a hard time with his new sibling and his beloved grandparents and aunts and uncles being away since grandma has been hospitalized for almost a week after a life saving surgery. They were a great support after his sibling was born and now he doesn’t have that. I feel so sad for him and want to make sure whatever we do is considering everything going on.
Please share any experiences, input, advice, etc. that you think are relevant. We could use all the help possible.