If both spouses are happy before marriage itself , (+) * (+) = (+)
If atleast 1 spouse is unhappy being single itself , (+) * (-) = (-)
If both spouses are unhappy being single, Nope, this is the only case the formula, it doesn't work. If you are unhappy single, you will be unhappy married!!
I observed that A lot of hate has been growing in my heart for girls due to being rejected. I know I am pathetic and shit and ain't even having the right to think about such a scenario without earning the right. But I still can't help but think.
There are 2 kinds of deals ::
Deal 1( Mutual suffering )::
I am a money making machine. I will make enough money to satisfy her, like at least 2 lakhs per month. And am willing to spend 50% of my money on her, 30% on shared household needs.
She is my sex slave and sex machine. She must obey all my sexual demands and commands
Deal 2( Mutual Happiness )::
Or you have an option for another deal::
I get to do the job i love in my life, but I may not earn much. I will remain fit.
She gets to do what she wants with her life. She should remain fit. Any decision we make as a couple should be made together by mutual consent.
I can't help but think most women would want both Apple and Mango. They would choose 1 from first deal and 2 from 2nd deal!!
But a similar argument can be made for men too based on social demands from both the genders.
As a woman
Deal 1( Mutual suffering )::
I will give you as much sex and babies as you want
You will earn very high to satisfy the demands of the family and children irrespective of whether you love your job!!
Deal 2( mutual benefit )::
I get to do what I love with my life and our decisions happen by mutual consent and discussion.
You do a job which you love where you also earn enough.
But the real question is what do you think is the more realistic and ethical preference for a deal to have ?
Note::
I have recently gone through a feminist thread which was illuminating regarding the "loneliness epidemic" :: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/s/vZBFTXCwBX
Especially the first comment was very illuminating,
Which tells me the fault lies in social structure and not in men or women!!
We need a more community oriented social structure!! And less focused on success or financial achievements!!