AITAH for wanting to confront my sister in law
AITAH for wanting to message my sister in law to confront her about everything I’ve been hearing her say about me? For context : her brother and I have been together for ten years and I have silently put up with issue after issue and never really said anything. Here are a few examples (honestly there are way more but then I’d be here all day)
•When we started dating, she told people there was no use getting to know me because we weren’t going to last.
•she told my best friend (myself also) that I should let him explore with other women because I was one of his first girlfriends and it wasn’t fair for me to hold him back. (Newsflash he’s a grown man and if he wanted to get with other girls he could, he just had to leave me first!) this was after 1 year of us dating
•When I got pregnant with our first baby she told me to my face (at 20 weeks) that we shouldn’t be having a baby together because he was “too much like their dad” and would be a bad father. (He’s nothing like him and FABULOUS) Mind you we had been together for 5 years at this point and those words stuck with me when I was the midst of ppd.
After that comment, and MANY others I’ve never let her meet our daughter. My daughter just turned five years old, and we have another.
I’ve just heard that she has been going around telling people that I am keeping my kids from his side of the family and that I refuse to let them spend any time with them. He comes from a large family, MULTIPLE siblings (I’m talking double digits here) and the only one who hasn’t met them is her.
In fact, I just spent all day with his mother and my other sister in law so I am in no way holding them back from anyone except her.
AITAH for wanting to finally confront her? It may potentially backfire on the person who told me all this info and I DO NOT want to get them in trouble. But I am sick and tired of being walked all over when she’s never even taken the time of day to get to know me - or my children really. She just expects to get to see them whenever she decides to visit.