u/Wonderful-Grand-9834

so my husband and i recently got married (literally the day he shipped out to kadena 😅). we are now trying to get documents in order for me to get there too. has anyone else married in this way? what should i know? it’s a pretty unorthodox thing im realizing, and we’ve got a million people telling us different things about this process.

EDIT: i do mean PCS! sorry if very new to this and having a 13 hour time difference doesn’t give us a lot of time to explain things. he will be in okinawa for two years

i don’t have many people to talk to about this so i’m coming to reddit 😅
For backstory, me and my boyfriend just recently reconnected after being apart for around 7 years. we dated and broke up in high school. it’s been a whirlwind romance since he got home, but he has to ship out to kadena soon. like in two days. we both knew that was the deal and talked loosely about if the distance was something we could overcome.
i would do anything for this man, always. and i said yes immediately. i still feel that in whatever way i can have him, i will. but now that it’s getting closer, reality is setting in. he is going to be gone for two years. on the other side of the world, with an immeasurable time difference.
the first two years of our relationship will be long distance, with us only seeing each other most likely one week a year.
his family is amazing, promising to keep me close to them so i can feel close to him.
but i don’t know if i can do this. it feels like so much right now, like our relationship is doomed before it ever even started.

i really would love some insight. i read of many strong amazing military SO’s in this sub, and i really am inspired by you. my main fear is that this is going to set the tone of our relationship. has anyone been in this specific situation? how did you handle it?

thank you for taking the time to read :) it might be a little messy since i’m at work and trying not to get emotional