Finding my ex on tinder less than a month later
yes I did break up with him and I am grieving for the potential future together cause sometimes the relationship was great. However,he made violent jokes towards me like raising his fist saying I’ll kill you and chased me around the house with a sawzall (plugged in and on). He lied to me about seeing his ex and never cared about my passions. My nervous system was on high alert all the time. I tried to be forgiving and understanding but the sawzall was the moment the relationship was over and I broke up with him a month after (he broke his ankle so I felt guilty for leaving but ultimately had to for my well being).
I did view his insta (I know terrible for my mental health) and I noticed that he began following a bunch of women and they were following him back. So I put the pieces together and my friend saw that he has a tinder. I assume he is filling the void and seeking validation but it hurts so bad to be thrown away so quickly. I know I shouldn’t take it personally and focus on myself. It’s just so jarring and weird to see someone you dated for 1.5 years not even wait or grieve. I feel bad for the next woman he dates.