u/Whatwhaaaattt

I told my mom I wish she would be more supportive (emotionally) and there for me, she says “well I think I did a good enough job raising you and putting you through college. ‘that was a huge bill’ btw. Did any of your friends parents pay for their college?” Mind you that was over 10 years ago and she insisted I go to college she would pay for it she wanted me to graduate college. Now it’s being used against me and she’s acting like she’s done with me because she’s ’done her part’ I tell her well usually a parent still tries to have a relationship with their kid even after they’re an adult. Like what the actual fuck. Thanks for making me feel like a worthless piece of shit.

My cousin is my maid of honor and she wants to plan a bridal shower for me and asked if my mom wants to be included/help and so I asked my mom and she said she doesn’t want to pay the billl.. I literally wasn’t talking about any payments or anything my mom just said she doesn’t want to be used or taken advantage of and she’s ’not a bank’ (mind you she has a lot of money) and I said don’t worry I’ll pay for it , then she said no you shouldn’t have to pay for it.. okay well then who the f is going to pay for it?! Like wtf. Then she just said sorry. I have no idea what to think. I wasn’t expecting her to pay it but now that I think of it I feel like she should be willing to? Idk. Makes me feel unworthy honestly and like I’m a piece of shit who doesn’t deserve to be showered. Now I don’t even want to be. Even though my cousin wants to plan it, it’s so nice to even say she wants to celebrate and plan that for me. Expected my mom to want to but she just looks at it as being used.. any relatable people here/advice for me? I’m definitely not even going to ask her for my wedding I’m sure she won’t want to chip in for that!