Wanting sex but never finding the right person.
I’m (28M) so sexually frustrated rn. It’s officially been 8 years since I’ve last had sex.
I know I’m an attractive person tbh and I have women around me interested. But they’re all wrong kinds of women and I don’t want to have sex simply out of desperation to get it over with.
Every girl I meet seems to be toxic af, not over her ex(this is the most common one), emotionally immature, thinks they can make me fall in love with them or just traumatised and wants sex as an escape. Is it really too much to ask for a girl who’s over her past relationships and is emotionally mature enough to handle sex? I want someone who’s attracted to me for me and not just looking for an escape.
All I want is a nice night with someone who I’m mutually attracted to mentally and physically. A good freaking date. I just want decent company for once that actually feel comfortable around to sleep with. I didn’t think this would be so difficult to find. Do y’all have any thoughts or suggestions? I’d be more than happy to listen, I’m a bit tired of all this.
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Edit: Seeing some repeated comments.
It’s not a girlfriend experience that I’m looking for just to hook up.
A woman wouldn’t want to sleep with a man who’s treating servers terribly on a date, who isn’t clear with what he wants, who doesn’t know how to talk properly to the other gender, if he’s unhygienic and so on.
So why should I? All I see are double standards here.
If someone wants to sleep with me they need to be the kind of person they’d wanna take out. I don’t wish to accept a bad experience just because sex is possible in the end.
I want it but I’m not desperate.