Apparently I got deemed a "male" pretending to be a woman on another community and told I was disrespectful for bringing up my OCD diagnosis.
I just need somewhere to vent about this because what the fuck.
I had a spiral and sought reassurance (I know that is bad), so I went to a woman specific community to ask about it since it was real event OCD.
Most people were nice but then I had someone make a comment who was suspicious that I am a man because my comments/posts from other communities apparently seem like a man wrote them and my account is not very old.
I was nice and told them that I understand why they are paranoid and that it is fucked up that they have to worry about men doing that. I explained that I was diagnosed with OCD young and that I illogically delete my Reddit accounts a lot and re make them and that I am in the process of looking for a new therapist right now and that my account looks like that because I have times during the month close to my period where I look for reassurance and that I am trying to find help for it.
But then I got a response that said
“It's moreso that your „issues" are very male coded fantasies.
I have ocd and almost feel insulted that you would bring that in connection to ocd.”
Like what? What fucking “fantasies”? I am literally diagnosed (looking into also getting help for possible PMDD since it happens around and a little after my period time) and If you look at my history I very clearly have moral OCD. I tried to be nice but I genuinely do not understand what about my account screams “male pretending to be a woman”
I guess any woman who doesn’t fit these peoples stereotypical view of how they should be/act is secretly a man now.
I get being paranoid on the internet but I feel like this is just very rude. They wouldn’t like it if I said that about them.
Sorry I have “male-coded” moral OCD I guess.