How do I let go of guilt and hope of reconciliation?
Hi, I’m trying to process my marriage that seems to now be ending after he was arrested for strangulation and other domestic assaults. There’s now a court-imposed no-contact order, so we haven’t spoken since.
I feel like everything changed that night in a way that can’t be repaired - but I’m struggling with guilt and still catching myself holding onto hope, even though I know how serious it was.
There was a lot of good in the relationship, which makes it harder. I feel stuck between knowing I need to move forward and feeling like I’m giving up on someone I cared about. I truly want to make my marriage work but I don’t know how or if I’m delusional.
For those who’ve been through something similar:
- How did you deal with the guilt?
- Is it normal to still feel hope after something like this? Is it possible?
- What actually helped you move forward?
Thank you