u/Visual-Reply974

hi everyone i’m new here:p i just came to the realization that i dated a narcissist for a few months this past year. for some context: it was short but intense and we’re both in our 20’s. i was raised by a family of narcissists (cut them off not too many years ago) i thought he’s an avoidant??hahaha i guess.

what finally made me 100% sure is the feeling i got from our last conversation which was recent. i finally responded to one of his attempt after discard to ask for something of mine back, when i didn’t engage in his delusions he became aggressive and spiraling over text with a very weird sense of entitlement he sounded actually crazy. it felt very dark and familiar… i blocked him. (he basically admitted to not wanting to give my thing back as punishment..)

i realize how malicious and intentional he was with so many things now. i also realize the times he was disappointed or even angry with me for not reacting to his triangulation or other one of his games. he never succeeded to make me insecure just confused and drained.

from the moment we stopped talking i never had intentions to go back and i think he didn’t expect that. the things he said over text he sounds so resentful im not sure how seriously i should take it.

the good thing is our lives were/are separate, different cities and we didn’t meet many times after the push and pull started. from little hints he dropped (red flags) his friends have no idea/enable him/ppl have gone back to him…

i just hope he will “let go” that i “saw his game”? maybe it’s a bit weird to to be worried about something hypothetical but resentful ppl scare me and i’ve been stalked in the past among other things so yeah

hi, i went no contact with my narcissist family some years ago and i just fully understood that i also dated a narcissist last summer(which is fucked up) we’re both in our 20’s, it was short but intense, he discarded me in november and texted me some time after. last time he did i responded to ask for something of mine back, because i stayed calm and refused to engage in his delusions he became very entitled, resentful and aggressive over text and it fully opened my eyes so i blocked and removed him from social media but the way he was talking kinda scared me. thankfully our lives are separate but still im a bit worried that he will want to “punish” me for “seeing through” his bs because from what i know his past partners have not, and he was spiraling during/after our exchange.

should i actually worry for my safety/peace? or will he just say im crazy to his friends or something

EDIT: obviously no one can predict i just don’t know how seriously i should take it since i just comprehended how malicious he is? my family tried to bother/smear me after but now idk what to expect from a man who hoovers and likes to provoke