my wife says she gets triggered when she sees me. She says she doesn’t feel emotionally safe or secure. I cursed her out twice as I felt she was very disrespectful to me as her husband. I apologized both times but she didn’t accept because she said I “justify”. Then came taking the house key away from her twice(she doesn’t live with me it was for easy access). She doesn’t live with me in general because we haven’t agreed on ANYTHING no finances nothing and we are always arguing and her kids are real comfortable where they are.
Anyway the second time I took the key was because she stated she would never prioritize anyone but herself, that was extremely hurtful to me so then I stated take your stuff out of my house and give me my key. Most of the time I put my wife first because I have much more freedom and I don’t let my child run the show. Anyway so now we aren’t talking, we don’t see each other. I tried to take her to the movies and go out to have fun and she says no she gets triggered seeing me and gets hurt seeing me. This last argument she was the aggressor. I’m not sure what to do, but I feel like i’m being treated as if I physically hurt her. I have been improving on my anger but she really knows how to piss me off with her words, even though she doesn’t curse me out it’s just as bad or even worse honestly, I rather get cursed out. I’m just exhausted I am trying but she’s real emotional and lives off her emotions and not logic. She only sees the mistakes I do and not the good.
Sorry this took off on a tangent.
Any suggestions would be great!
Thanks!